To Be Or Not To Be...

Actually what i am going to write about doesn't actually touches the title, not one bit, I THINK.

Ok, what is your position among your siblings?

The eldest? The second? The Third? Or the fourth?

Anyhow, i think that no matter what position u r in, your responsibility towards your parents is the same and equal among the siblings, right?

All should love and care of your parents, no matter how bad they treated you as a child, coz u know, they did that because they love u, not less.

This does relates to my previous post, also about parents.

 

As a malay, and also a Muslim,

heaven lies under the mother's feet (direct translation of a Malay's sayings)

Yeah, we can consider the same for our dad too

Coz without them both, who are we today?

Also, in the usual customs around the world, we were to care and return the favours of them raising us, eventhough they didnt ask us to return it back.

And when your parents denied how much they dont want anything from u, believe me when i say,

THEY EXPECT YOU TO DO SO.

Not necessarily in the form of money, but it is more better to show them love and appreciation.

THEY NEED THAT.

They are growing older everyday, so do we.

Sooner or later, after we have our own career, u think that u would have time for your parents?

I DONT THINK SO.

And do u have enough time to work and earn money (that u wish to repay your parents), just in time before they die?

YES, EVERYONE DIE EVENTUALLY.

Do u think u have enough time?

 

So to say, i think i dont have time...

my parents are in their 50s and i am currently in my 20s.

God, I LOVE THEM SO MUCH.

I want to work and earn money, and hopefully let them enjoy their life after years of hard work raising us (my siblings)

I want to give them something to feel for

Something that can make them see how their 'product' succeeded in life

PLEASE GOD DONT TAKE THEM AWAY YET...

I haven't yet been successful and haven't even worked at that

 

This is what i was about to talk about, how to appreciate your parents.

Some people say give them money,

but if you think logically, CAN MONEY BUY HAPPINESS?

Yes, they can buy GUCCI, HARLEY DAV....

but the hell? they have no one to share it with but one another

They need love man... they need love

 

It sickens me to see how some assholes ungrateful children put their parents into the old folks home.

Dont give me that shitfull 'no time' reason!

How bad is it to keep your parents who raised you, fed u, cared for you?

Even if you dont have time, hire a private nurse to care for them.

WHY NOT? since u got all the money in the world to go honeymoon 24/7 and movies at the cinema, not realising how dumb you look acting like some teenagers still dating at d cinema and all.

These people makes me sick!

 

Another thing, this is strictly about women, not men coz i know men cares for their mom very much.

Yeah, women

what is wrong with ya people?

why is it that you would favour your mother-in-law more than your own mother?

Is it that your MIL gave birth to you? or even raised u?

Yes i get it u gotta respect the MIL, but that doesnt mean you gotta ignore ya mother...

what did she havent done for you?

I observe this in most of my relatives and friends

PLEASE DONT HURT YOUR MOM THIS WAY

She maybe looks ok, but deep inside, its tearing her apart

 

True case, a daughter, married, have kids, rarely visit parents eventhough lives only 400m apart.

WTH RIGHT????

This is because of major mental retardation case with the daughter

Obsession with wealth has blinded her of the truth in the world.

being married to a dick, who constanty influences her to hate her siblings, yeah in a way, pushing themselves away from the family.

Great, just great.

The parents worked hard to raise her as a child, even with constant beating and pushes to educate her, they still loved her.

Being that highly educated means nothing if you dont understand the reason why the parents didnt always give her what she wanted.

The parents, during the raising of this particular eldest daughter, is quite poor at the time as it was a tough living at the time, during the 1970s.

not understanding that, makes her hate the parents would dont have the money to buy the trendy bags, the nicest shoes, n the coolest outfits, and this have been something she has kept in mind till the day.

IDIOT

n nowadays, NOT LIKE ANY OTHER GOOD MALAY GIRLS, she didnt give money at all at her parents n like i mentioned earlier, not even a visit.

Not caring whether the parents is dead or alive.

Just living a anti-social life in a overcrowded-with-stuff house, n being ignored by the family..

as the siblings are super mad at her for treating her parents in that such a way.

 

As a conclusion, yes, it is not wrong to move away or work your way to success...

BUT NEVER FORGET

without your parents, who are you today? would you even exist? would you even be reading this blog?

That is the way how they educate their children, dont blame them, as that also maybe the way how their parents educated them.

As for me, i rather not get married and just stay single and just stay and take care of them till the day they pass...

I dont want to miss a single moment with them, as i know when they are gone, I WILL BE MISSING THEM TERRIBLY...

 

TO BE OR NOT TO BE A GOOD CHILD

The Annoying Ones @.@

I am a very conservative person (yeah right!)
Ok ok... not that conservative.. FINE
I do like to take care of my family..,
Anyone can do or say anything to me, but if they did something to my family, especially my parents, your time in this world is up man! >:(

My family is the best.
Not by judging them from my side, coz yeah i am the youngest daughter, being the spoiled one (actually i am not)
They are kind and thoughtful to everyone else in their world.
My parents, especially, would treat even their worst enemy the best they could offer if the enemy comes to their house.
They wouldn't make anyone feel bad or hated no matter how much my parents hate them in reality.
I know my parents hate them as my parents always talk bad about their enemies and i overheard them.
But in reality my parents never show their hatred in real life.
If i were them, i'll put poison in the drinks.. :P


Never i have seen them fight physically or by speech (rudely) to other people...
And this makes my parents to be vulnerable of being used by some seriously opportunist n likes to use people kinda person.

One very obvious example is my own uncle's family...
Seriously i hate them..
They like to use my parents, as to buy their stuff if my family ever go on a holiday, or stay by our house and didn't do anything to help us out on preparing dinner or lunch (like a boss), and even dont care a damn on trying to pay my family back for the stuff my parents bought for them or thank for my family for their hospitality.
Like shit!!! >:(
And surprisingly, my parents are like so dont care about the issue which i and my sisters brought up about the useless relatives.
They would say: "Ahh, let them be. Its a good deed to do stuff for people"
And i was like... WTH????
If once they did it, i wont mind..
But if its like almost 11 times, why wouldnt i be mad?
Its my family that was given all the trouble in the world to feed them, giving them a roof to sleep under and even spend their money just to please the relatives.
Over My Dead Body!
Not even a thanks was given to my parents.
And after they left, they leave my family's house in such a mess (like barbaric) and have no concerns at all on whos gonna clean up for them.
And yes of course my poor mother had to do it.
In her age and health condition, yeah THANKS MY ASSHOLE RELATIVES FOR MAKING MY MOM MORE ILL!!!

Ok, this is only the matter of relatives, not to mention about their friends.
Its about the same drama, but i think their friends are much more considerate than their own blood-related.


And by this, i hope that one day i may relocate to another country or state and bring my parents with me.
Any contacts with the useless relatives are strictly forbidden.
I want my family to live in harmony and not to let any other people to take advantage on them again.
But if there is more, I'll have my rifle near to me.... 

My Dream Boy~

How else can i say this..

Yeah, i admit that i am choosy when it comes to boyfriends

People always ask me the same question:

"Do you have a boyfriend? He must be handsome."

But when i said i don't have one, they'll reply:

"OMG why not? Seriously?"

-.-

Its like is it important for a girl like me in this age to have a BOYFRIEND?

Yeah, i do sometimes feel lonely and jealous of my friends who have a boyfriend or boyfriends..

Making me feel like totally unwanted by boys, of which i feel is true~

In the issue of me being choosy about boys..

Yeah, who doesn't want a perfect boyfriend? A handsome, tall and caring guy? Tell me who doesn't?

Yeah, i do really want one.. But is it easy to find one?

For me, I would wanna find someone as good looking as Jensen Ackles.

Beautiful eyes, sharp nose and a lovely smile with a dimple..

OMG dimples does make me melt over boys who have em

And this is the part of which i am being choosy..

My dream man must be tall, having a cute smile and fair skinned..

MUST BE

Seems wrong right?

I kept on giving advice to my friends about giving a guy a chance to have their love, but me, myself, is being very choosy in the same issue.

I haven't give any guy that don't have those qualities to flirt with me.

Sounds mean, but i just can't..

First of all, i am afraid of guys.

Just ask any friend of mine, how i would react if an unknown male approach me.

I WOULD RUN AWAY...

and i have a trusting issue, i cant easily trust people.

and i dont know, i guess i am afraid of rejection..

Boys, i know them..

I knew a lot of guys of which they are my friends

I know what they like, what they think..

n i know, most guys dont like me because i am tall, or in a guy's term: BIG

Yeah, n when a guy ask me out, i would say no.. 

I know i am wrong for not to get to know that guy first.

N not taking chances on him, because we cannot always get what we want right?

I guess i am just afraid of the date might be just a prank n i might get hurt, again.

But what can i say, i am a TAURUS..

the issue of trusting a person is important for us Taurus.

i do want a partner in life, but i am hard to find one

I am choosy and afraid at the same time.

Fell in love or as i can say: crush, towards my friends, happens to me all the time

But they r my friend, n it will be kept that way.

I guess i am just good as a friend for a guy, not more than that.

But i am okay

If i find the one, i will have him.

If i dont, then i will be faithful with my family for all my life and dedicate my life for them and for them only.

Out Out and Away~

ok... I am going away~
Not dying... LOL
but i am going to continue my studies in the food tech course in a local university in Malaysia..
;D

Actually, i am excited, but at the same time worried.. HUH~
I am not sure what i am worried of, but it is certain that my heart beats faster every time i think of entering the uni..
God knows how i am worried~

Maybe it is because i am worried of the other students and seniors there..
Its not i am afraid of them, its just i am totally freaked out, knowing i am going through another phase of entering a new 'school' just like before..
I know that i am going to be popular, or the first new student to be popular.. and that is what i am afraid of..

I know it very well that people are going to approach me.. asking me:

• where do u come from?
• Are u a mixed marriage child?
• What country are u originally from?

=.="

yeah~ my 'fav' questions! And i have to repeat the same answer every time.. Its like i wanna make flyers about the answers and distribute it to the people.. :P

Yes, i do look like a Mat Salleh (notice the Mat @ Man) :P

And i do hate people's attention towards me.. I hate being stared at.. -.-

Maybe that's why i am nervous.. :P

This attention and staring-at-me thing will last for the next 6 months... and after that i am free to roam the uni without people staring..

It is going to be a long 6 months.. :P

L.O.V.E

A boring and cliche title to write about huh?
Same here, i have read a lot of other people's point of view on this topic..
And some of the views doesn't really based on the topic, but is based on their own feelings.
And most of them write about this topic just because they have recently heart broke.

LOVE

Yeah, love is important, i gotta admit. Never denied how the power of love can bring a lot in life.
With love, we can achieve a lot in life..
It brings us support, courage, care, optimism, shelter...
We do need love in our life, everyone does, no matter how much they deny it.
Without love, you are nothing..

People who says they don't need love, love is for losers.. they are just cowards..
They are afraid to find love which is already around them..
Maybe they felt betrayed before, but what they don't know is that love will always find them in many forms..
When i talk about love in the above statement, i don't only mean the type of lovey girl-boy kind of love..
I am talking about the international love, the love of god, parents, family, friendship and country..
Yeah.. :P
Who says to find love, you must find a GF or BF?
Yeah, love of course is much fun and flirty if its about the BF GF thing, but the most powerful love of all is the love of god and parents..
These kind of love is the forever, no-expiration date and tender-loving love ever..
No love can replace these love, or can out-shine them

The Love of GodAsk yourself, do u have a religion?
If you do, do you have faith? Are you devoted into your religion?
Do you even pray as your religion requires you to?

Remember, God loves you..
God created you for a reason, and you should be thankful..
No matter what you do or don't, He always looks after you and forgives you when you ask for forgiveness...
Even if you don't, whenever you are in trouble, He will always help you by guiding you, or even show you a way which shall help you to go through the troubles..
Believe me, i know... Experienced a lot of guides from Him that made me who i am today..

God loves you, and as to show you how much, see the world around you..
The love of God is the ultimate love of all...
The love guides you through life, created who you are and will make you successful as you should..
Love Him back by praying and remembering him in every time of your life as you will develop faith and that will make you stronger and a believer to make you through every obstacle in your life..

The Love of Parents

I love my parents... Do you love yours?
There have been some stories that i read, about children getting abused by their own parents, molested, thrown into garbages and even killed by their own parents..
Now, pinch your own hand... You are still alive, right?
So, your parents love you... Be happy about that.. :D
Yeah, some parents use the brute force to raise you up.. But still they love you..
Its their way of raising you, if they don't love you, you'll not be here reading my blog, instead you wouldn't be born as they wouldn't want you, am i right?

No matter what they say about you, or hurt you.. They actually love you...
Who pamper you when you are crying? Who raise you up until you are this big?
Who actually stayed up all night when you are sick when you r just a little baby?
Who spent thousands of dollars buying you toys, clothes, food, and school fees just so you can be the you today?
And a lot more who who questions which i am tired to write here.. :P
Anyways, if your parents scold you, there must be logical reason why...
You must have done something wrong, and the reason why they scold you is because they love you and they don't want you to repeat the same mistake as you grow older..

Their love have made who you are today.. Your confidence, your bravery, your strength and lots more are the result of their love and guidance towards you..
Without them, there will be no you..
Be thankful, and forever remember them.. even after they are gone..
Pray for their wellness..
And if they r still alive, visit them constantly and remember to take care of them..
The kind of person who disgrace me is the kind of people who would put their parents in the old folks home.. There is no logical explanation why u should put them there..
It only means you are not appreciating them of what they have done for u, n that u r a non-worthy child for me.. =.=

The Love of Family and Friendship

Who are your first friends in the world?
The answer is: You siblings.. am i right?
You share a deep bonding with them, other than the almost same DNA.. :P
The supportive people in your life are your siblings..
They understand you as they know you too well.. You grew up together yeah?
so u understand each other more than other people does.. Use that..
No one can understand you better than your own family...

Some people feel more open towards their friends compared to their own family...
Perhaps they wanted a person who doesn't know you well to judge you as they will give the sincere judgement, compared to your own family who will give you advices that you know they will give.. :P
And that is why we need friends..
Other than they judge you honestly, they also can accompany you whenever you are feeling sad or mad towards your family..
true friends is the one who will always be by your side, in bad and good times..
Its hard to find the true ones.. but when you do, never loose them..
You'll never know when you might find another.. :D

The Love between A Girl and A BoyYeah, this is my fav.. :P (well everyone is)
This type of love is everyone's craving.. Everyone is busy finding the ONE, thus pushing aside all the other love that exist..
Yeah, its true.. Girls (especially) would push away their friends and family just to please their boys.. Idiots.. -.-
Any love that is based on these type of love is not forever lasting unless you tie up the knot..
Yeah, sad but true story in Malaysia is that when the guy gets what he wants from the girl (SEX), he will leave her, pregnant and move on to the next girl..
How pathetic.. The girls knows but still gave it all up..
For what? Huh..
And when you needed someone to help you raising the child, who would you turn to? Your family? They might forgive you.. But your friends? It might be too late for that as your betrayed them at the first place..
Most guys are choosers, you don't get to choose them, THEY CHOOSE YOU..
so don't even bother to flirt with them..
And when they do approach you, find out their intentions, if they really love you, go on.. If not, kick him to the curb.. :P
If a guy really loves you, he will ask you to marry him without delays.. and goes on with the marriage
That is my dream guy ;D

And the problem with the love haters..
They hate even hearing the word LOVE?
Why u ask me?
I'll tell you why...
Most of these type of people have been heart broken before.. probably rejected by some guy/girl
Believe me, been there done that.. :P
And some, they haven't try flirting or asking someone out, but yet they are already afraid and don't dare to ask... Asking Out-Phobia.. :P
They don't believe in Love anymore.. And it kills them to try to find a new love..
They forgotten that love is all around them...
And they are also cowards, as they are afraid to flirt again, afraid of being rejected AGAIN..
well, you know what.. the guy who rejected you are losers..
They lost it because they are losing a chance of a life time to be with a great person like you
Everyone is great in their own way, and everyone have someone made for them..

Choose a guy who is :

• caring and would love you no matter what..
• have a strong faith towards God and could guide you too
• loyal towards you and would given his life for you
• financially supporting you, not the other way around.. the ones who you'll ending up supporting them is not a REAL MAN
• would respect your parents and love them as much as you do
• strong and protective

other characteristics are not as important as above, but still is..

Choose carefully, and you will have a great life...

Ever wonder why i have more chinese and indian friends compared to malay friends?
Well, dont have to wonder off too far..
The reason is easy:

• Malays are so judging of each other
• They are not loyal to their friends
• They take it easy on making the relationship lasts
• The constantly ignore their friends, in the form of texting back or reply any kind of messages, whether its on FB or Twitter..

It is REALLY hard to find a really good Malay friend...

Found some, but mostly the ones who i met is really ________. (fill in the blanks with the best word you can make)

Some, who has already made it into my BFF list is making me really annoyed right now..

Deleted some of my statement and even deleted one of the girls.. (Totally satisfied)

Come on, if you hate me that much, delete me as your friend and i can understand you dont want me anymore so that i can move on...

dont make me sick watching you reply other people's messages but not mine..

What the hell is wrong with you?

I am totally going to give you some time, and when i had enough, i am going to delete each and every one of your memories in my life...

Coz i am sick of your ignorance attitude..

And i was wondering why people hate you so much... MY MISTAKE!

StYle or TorTure?

Ok... How do you style yourself?
Are you a hipster, girly, boyish, gothic, nerdy, casual, or just playing smart style?
Haha.. everyone have their own style right? Style that some are not even classified as a style..
But we are what we are.. :P

For me, i love to wear a T-shirt (guy's t-shirt) with a pair of jeans. Just like that.
Handy and fast to put on.. :PI hate girl's t-shirt coz they are small and very tight at 'the places'.. -.-
Yeah, and by wearing this, I look like a guy that some girls even tried to flirt with me =.="
DISGUSTING!! XP

My intention is not to look like a guy, but i just like to wear it like that.
It makes me feel cool and not so 'gedik' or girly, or else i shall be piked up by guys..
Yeah, I do look good as a guy and also as a girl! :P
What can i say, I am GOOODDD~ and hot too.. :P

I basically dress for comfort and style too..
As a girl, matching outfits are crucial.. or else i shall feel very outdated.. Not that i ever was.. :P
Not like other girls, i hated to wear skirts, tight shirts, blouse, and not to forget high heels..
I am tall enough.. What do i need heels for? :P

Facts about guyish outfit:

• Very handy and easy to wear
• You can do almost anything while wearing the outfit (eg running, dancing, exercising, mountain climbing, cooking, and other cool stuff)
• You can pretend to be a guy to avoid being picked up, harassed, or even raped when you are walking alone.. creepyy~
• You look tough and ready to fight for someone else and might even look scary to even make the evil ones run away..
• The outfit is big enough that it will make your body cool as the air runs throughout the outfit
• You can breathe, sing, and dance and you would feel alive..
• You would look younger by wearing the jeans and t-shirts as you look cool in it
• The big outfits can hide all your 'spare tires' and overflowing 'abs'
• You dont need to spend much money on buying accessories to be match with your cool outfit.
• Shoes like sport shoes and sneakers are cool and be worn on any occasion, even prom or casual dinner as they are STYLISH.. :P
  
• And you will not look sexy (if you are a conservative type) and your inner looks will not be a sight for sore eyes.. :P
  

Facts about Girly Outfits:

• Very hard and irritating to wear.. (Believe me i've tried) :P
• You can't do a lot of things as you would always try to cover up your 'parts' from showing!
• Always picked up, harassed, and would probably raped if you are alone walking by the road wearing your girly, sexy outfits.. :P
• You look weak and can be easily taken down by the perverts who would like to have a piece of you.. scary! -.-
• The outfits are tight and air could not go through it, making you sweat easily and you would feel like wanting to take 'em off in front of everyone. =.="
• You cannot breathe, sing or even dance as you are dying in the tight tight outfits.. @.@
• You look older than your age if you wear the wrong colours at the wrong time..
  
• The tight outfits will show everyone of your assets and everyone can imagine your body shape without even looking at the naked you..
• Need to spend a lot of money on accessories, make ups and shoes to match your girly outfit.. If u dont, you would be the laughing stock of your stylish friends. WHATEVER~ -.-
• High heels and girly shoes are dangerously killing my feet.. They make my hips sore and always makes me slide all the way through the slippery floor of the mall.. =.="
• You will forever look sexy in girls outfit but being sexy is not a good thing for a girl who walks and live alone..
  

So, all and all, its not wrong to dress as a girl or as a boy.

As long as we are comfortable in our own ways.. Then what we wear is okay for us, even if its not okay with other people..

It is better to wear the outfit according to your sex, but it is better if you wear the non-sexy ones, for your own safety.

We girls should follow the fashion trends, but i, i am a non-follower... I am a trend setter.. I do my own style of outfit.. :P