Ok, what is your position among your siblings?
The eldest? The second? The Third? Or the fourth?
Anyhow, i think that no matter what position u r in, your responsibility towards your parents is the same and equal among the siblings, right?
All should love and care of your parents, no matter how bad they treated you as a child, coz u know, they did that because they love u, not less.
This does relates to my previous post, also about parents.
As a malay, and also a Muslim,
heaven lies under the mother's feet (direct translation of a Malay's sayings)
Yeah, we can consider the same for our dad too
Coz without them both, who are we today?
Also, in the usual customs around the world, we were to care and return the favours of them raising us, eventhough they didnt ask us to return it back.
And when your parents denied how much they dont want anything from u, believe me when i say,
THEY EXPECT YOU TO DO SO.
Not necessarily in the form of money, but it is more better to show them love and appreciation.
THEY NEED THAT.
They are growing older everyday, so do we.
Sooner or later, after we have our own career, u think that u would have time for your parents?
I DONT THINK SO.
And do u have enough time to work and earn money (that u wish to repay your parents), just in time before they die?
YES, EVERYONE DIE EVENTUALLY.
Do u think u have enough time?
So to say, i think i dont have time...
my parents are in their 50s and i am currently in my 20s.
God, I LOVE THEM SO MUCH.
I want to work and earn money, and hopefully let them enjoy their life after years of hard work raising us (my siblings)
I want to give them something to feel for
Something that can make them see how their 'product' succeeded in life
PLEASE GOD DONT TAKE THEM AWAY YET...
I haven't yet been successful and haven't even worked at that
This is what i was about to talk about, how to appreciate your parents.
Some people say give them money,
but if you think logically, CAN MONEY BUY HAPPINESS?
Yes, they can buy GUCCI, HARLEY DAV....
but the hell? they have no one to share it with but one another
They need love man... they need love
It sickens me to see how some assholes ungrateful children put their parents into the old folks home.
Dont give me that shitfull 'no time' reason!
How bad is it to keep your parents who raised you, fed u, cared for you?
Even if you dont have time, hire a private nurse to care for them.
WHY NOT? since u got all the money in the world to go honeymoon 24/7 and movies at the cinema, not realising how dumb you look acting like some teenagers still dating at d cinema and all.
These people makes me sick!
Another thing, this is strictly about women, not men coz i know men cares for their mom very much.
Yeah, women
what is wrong with ya people?
why is it that you would favour your mother-in-law more than your own mother?
Is it that your MIL gave birth to you? or even raised u?
Yes i get it u gotta respect the MIL, but that doesnt mean you gotta ignore ya mother...
what did she havent done for you?
I observe this in most of my relatives and friends
PLEASE DONT HURT YOUR MOM THIS WAY
She maybe looks ok, but deep inside, its tearing her apart
True case, a daughter, married, have kids, rarely visit parents eventhough lives only 400m apart.
WTH RIGHT????
This is because of major mental retardation case with the daughter
Obsession with wealth has blinded her of the truth in the world.
being married to a dick, who constanty influences her to hate her siblings, yeah in a way, pushing themselves away from the family.
Great, just great.
The parents worked hard to raise her as a child, even with constant beating and pushes to educate her, they still loved her.
Being that highly educated means nothing if you dont understand the reason why the parents didnt always give her what she wanted.
The parents, during the raising of this particular eldest daughter, is quite poor at the time as it was a tough living at the time, during the 1970s.
not understanding that, makes her hate the parents would dont have the money to buy the trendy bags, the nicest shoes, n the coolest outfits, and this have been something she has kept in mind till the day.
IDIOT
n nowadays, NOT LIKE ANY OTHER GOOD MALAY GIRLS, she didnt give money at all at her parents n like i mentioned earlier, not even a visit.
Not caring whether the parents is dead or alive.
Just living a anti-social life in a overcrowded-with-stuff house, n being ignored by the family..
as the siblings are super mad at her for treating her parents in that such a way.
As a conclusion, yes, it is not wrong to move away or work your way to success...
BUT NEVER FORGET
without your parents, who are you today? would you even exist? would you even be reading this blog?
That is the way how they educate their children, dont blame them, as that also maybe the way how their parents educated them.
As for me, i rather not get married and just stay single and just stay and take care of them till the day they pass...
I dont want to miss a single moment with them, as i know when they are gone, I WILL BE MISSING THEM TERRIBLY...
TO BE OR NOT TO BE A GOOD CHILD
